This was an interesting subject that’s been rolling around in my head lately.
Loving your enemies.
How the heck do you do that?
So, we all know this guy named Jesus right? He told us these words, “Love Your Enemies.”
Jesus, you be crazy! How do I do that?
In the book, the Power of Now, I loved what the author said, “Love your enemies,” said Jesus, which, of course, means, “have no enemies.”
The ego thrives on enemies. It has to be right and someone else has to be wrong. When we love our enemies, we have no enemies. We stop having to justify, validate, and prove that we are the top dog, or we are right, right, right. When we have to be right, we point the finger, shame, blame, judge, and cause a mess in relationships or even with people we don’t know.
The ego has to be right.
The ego needs an opposition.
It needs an enemy.
So, what I believe Jesus was saying was, “Love your enemies.” Or in other words, “Don’t create enemies in your mind. Have no enemies.”
Someone can hate you. I mean be a butt to you, and you can make a choice to have no enemies. To love your enemies. When you love them, the ego is no longer in control. It has no enemy to contend anymore. Only love can shine then.
It doesn’t mean you hang out with that person. Because, in their mind you are still their enemy. Does that make sense? You are no longer operating out of ego, and therefore you are loving your enemy.
No one loves an enemy.
So, what was Jesus saying?
He was saying, “Have no enemies. Love them, so that in your own mind they are no longer an enemy.”
Jesus didn’t skip around with those who hung him on a cross, or say, “Come eat at my table” to the pharisees. He didn’t whisper in their ear, “You’re my best friend.”
Jesus just simply showed us this powerful thing. No one is my enemy. He said, “Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” He saw beyond the shell of humanity. He saw the true spirit beneath the so called “enemy” of His.
He saw no enemies.
Jesus didn’t run off his ego. He could have boasted and said, “Look at me I can change water into wine. I’m the son of God. I’m the most amazing!” But what would that be?
The ego always has to have an enemy to survive. It needs to feel as if it is more ‘righteous’ or ‘holy’ than another. But, if we are leaning toward that, then we are creating, in a sense, an enemy with another.
When we need to prove ourselves to others or make them wrong, we are creating an enemy with that person. When we no longer need to feel right and the other person wrong we are then operating on the level Jesus did. An ego-less life. A mind that doesn’t need to feel justified or righteous. It just is.
It’s not an easy journey to love your enemies, to get outside ego. Every day ego wants to rear it’s ugly head and shout, Look how wrong they are! Look how right you are! It’s in the rightness and their wrongness that you are creating an enemy with them. When you step outside of ego, and let those who oppose you just be, they are no longer your enemy. You have now stepped into a new realm.
Love your enemies.
Have no enemies