How to Declutter: Creating Space Within #declutter

SPACE.

What comes to mind when you think of that word? Probably galaxies far, far away…stars…aliens?

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I want to talk about a whole different kind of space today.

Are you cluttered up inside? Do you have space?

I was meditating the other day when I asked, “What do I do to market better?” This is something that’s always on a creative artist’s mind.

As I sat there the most unusual answer came to me. “Space in yourself to manifest.”

I was baffled a bit by this answer, because of course I’m thinking I’d hear, “Work harder, post more, email lists, blah, blah.” Then I go and hear something about space? Huh?

This is the message I received:

“Space in yourself to manifest. Space in the mind is a powerful tool to manifest. Emotional distance between you and your goal hinders it. Space to create is the  most powerful. Clear out space. Clear out mind clutter, soul clutter, and old chatter. Old emotions block up the space to create. FEEL them fully. People fill their heads with noise. You want to empty the head of noise. Mind noise prevents people from actually listening. Space is formed by clearing the noise.”

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Whether this was my spirit talking, Holy Spirit, or an angel, I’m unsure, but it continued with these steps:

Step 1: Noise reduction. There isn’t a “no noise” switch or solution, but there is resources for less noise. Emotional noise is a real thing in the air. Pollution of real emotions happens–but you can filter it.

Step 2: Breathing. Learn it. Do it.

Step 3: Repeat Step 4–laugh at all life. Keep it light–keep it fun. (I received step 4 before 3)

Step 4: Take these steps seriously, but also learn to see humor in all life.

This was the final piece of info I received:

Be present as much as possible. Create less noise pollution in yourself and others. Others FEED on emotional disturbances. They thrive on it. Create less “drama” for the masses to feed on. Let go of the need to feed.

 

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It’s okay to be different

 

I have like emotions upon emotions right now. I’m trying to sort through what I’m feeling and sensing, and it’s like wading through a bunch of half-written notes. All I know is:

I feel different. 

I’ve always been that kid who believed in unicorns, fairies, mermaids, and angels. That kid who looked for fairy rings and secretly hoped that the lochness monster was real. I have belief upon belief, and I want to believe it all.

I have changed dramatically in the last two years. I used to be scared of everything weird or out there because I was taught to be scared, wary, and freaked out by everything unique or weird such as: angel cards, stones and gems, talking to fairies/angels/spirits or different religions.

Wow have I changed.

It’s all conditioning. We are taught certain things to keep us boxed into a religion. I think many religions are good, and I realized that I was taught that other stuff was evil or to be cautious of it so that evil spirits wouldn’t come on me.

Hmmm…sounds like a good way to keep someone controlled to me.

Over the last couple years, my eyes have been opened to more. I am no longer afraid to explore different beliefs, without feeling I’ll be exposed to an evil spirit. One thing I have realized though is: many are still afraid of it. I still choose to keep my roots in Christianity: I believe in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, but….

I use angel cards.

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I discovered these roughly a year ago, and at first, like any good Christian girl, I thought they were bad. Then I started watching videos, and I could feel how these simple cards encouraged me and others.

It was simply a tool.

I’ve always been intuitive, and for years I’ve given what Christians call: Words. Or more or less a “Reading” to those who are in the New Thought realm. The thought of using my gift to a broader audience really lit me up. So, I bought some cards, but I had to hide everything. I knew my Christian crowd would instantly say, “Evil!” And, so I hid it away from them.

I prayed to God, and asked what cards should pop out for people, and then with guided information whether my own intuition or other, I gave people help. And it was spot on.

Then another thing happened.

I was writing in  my journal one day when I heard a name and a bunch of information. I was like, “Huh? Is this an angel?” So, I started writing more and more, and grew extremely excited that angels talked to me. I’ve always heard God, or what I thought was God, and it was normal for me to tap into a spiritual side through prayer. I’ve even heard an angel say something to me out loud before as a kid, and one time I felt one touch my journal and push it down.

So, I published: Angel Guidance for Wealth.

This began a much bigger realm for me.

Problem was, people I knew didn’t agree with the fact that angels gave me guidance. Do I have Bible verses for that? No. Besides the fact that angels did give people messages and warned them etc.

Again, like I said, I’m different.

I’ve had pain and rejection because of these differences in beliefs. In fact, I know some people have called me names concerning it, and it hurt a lot.

People may not understand cards or angels, but I do.

I like them.

They bring healing to me and others.

It’s okay to be different.

 

 

 

How can you cure depression naturally? #depression #anxiety

 

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How do you avoid depression?

Why is there such a raging amount of people suffering from this mental illness? Is there a natural way to avoid it all together?

Yes, I believe there is.

If you’re like me, and you look at those statistics above, it breaks your heart.  My natural instinct is to want to help those who are in pain and loneliness. But, therein lies the flaw.

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We don’t take care of ourselves first. 

I’m not saying don’t reach out to those who are need, but many times, those who are suffering from a mental illness got to that place, because they ignored emotions that were trying to get their attention. When repressed anger, continuing sadness, frustration, fear, and feeling held back swirl around on the inside of you, a deeper root manifests–depression. Depression is a state of giving up when the emotions one feels can’t be expressed or sorted through.

So, how do we avoid this all together? Let’s dig in a little further.

Depression and Divorce

My story of depression began with a fairy-tale. I’m not going to go into the mess of divorce right now, but I want to briefly give you a few insights. My story started with my desire to have children. The longer the desire was withheld from me, the longer my repressed emotions built, until I got to the place of depression.

Everyone handles depression differently.

I know for some they don’t do anything but lay on their bed, but the thing about depression is: it has a bunch of ways it comes out.

For me it was being obsessive.

I couldn’t stop long enough to try to deal with the emotions I felt about being withheld my deepest desire. I couldn’t face my feelings of “not good enough” or that my husband didn’t love me. I would ‘think’ those thoughts, but I never let myself actually express or ‘feel’ those thoughts. It was too painful.

This is why depression formed for me.

How do you deal with depression?

Depression is, in my own opinion, a lack of expression in some way. Some people get depressed cause they feel life has no meaning or point. But why? What part of themselves are they not allowing to express?

  • Depression is a form of self-loathing (it is a form of self-expression, because we aren’t expressing what we truly want or desire to ourselves or others.)
  • Depression is our emotions shutting down because it hurts too much not to speak our truth.
  • Depression is formed from desiring something, and anger, frustration, sadness, and pain grows too great to handle.
  • Depression can be triggered from a life event: divorce or loss of some kind (if emotions aren’t sorted through or expressed, it can linger after these events are long over.)

So how do you deal with it?

EXPRESS.

I found this amazing book called: the Courage to Be Creative. It literally came at the right time for me. I thought I was the only cray-cray one out there who felt the way I felt. And, that is a form of depression right there–feeling you are the only one who feels that bad.

The Courage to Creative helped me to see that I needed to funnel my emotions INTO something. Again, like I said, EXPRESSION.

We need expression to thrive. We need expression to live.  Discovering who you are, not by what you DO, but your very ESSENCE or BEING and LIVE through that. Discovering your passion prevents depression, because it gives all that emotional energy a place to go.

We all suffer. We all go through pain. And through our pain we can thrive, if we learn to funnel that expression of pain INTO something. If you are having a hard time knowing what form of expression works for you: explore everything. I’m a writer, a reader, a dreamer, and an idealist. I love to express this way, but I also love to express by crafting or being outside.

FIND YOUR EXPRESSION.

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Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or professional. These are simply my opinions on the subject of depression. If you are suffering from a major illness, please talk to your doctor. 

Sources: http://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-By-the-Numbers

 

 

How to Overcome Anxiety #howtodealwithstress #stress #anxiety

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We’ve all been through a form of anxiety in our lives at one point or another, but how do we beat down anxiety?

About a year and a half ago I went through a divorce, and anxiety and I became unwanted roommates. Dealing with chaotic thoughts, short breathing, and a raging amount of emotions was an every day thing.

How do you cope with anxiety?

  1. Find a place in nature

People talk about exercise, deep breathing, and all kinds of methods, but what worked for me was getting in nature. And, yes, I did this in winter. Bundle up if you need to and get outside for at least 20-30 minutes a day. There is something about fresh air that relieves anxiety.

2. Be in the NOW

I heard the angels tell me, “Look up the book about the NOW.” I had no idea about THE POWER OF NOW, and this book changed me.

Pull all of your attention to the NOW. Not the past, not the future, but what is going on right NOW.

3. Acknowledge your own emotions.

As a sensitive person, I used to dismiss my own emotions. When we dismiss them we build up a higher charge, that can turn into anxiety or depression. In order to cope with anxiety, tell yourself, “I hear you. I love you in whatever emotion you feel.” This will help dissolve the emotions that aren’t feeling good.

How do I deal with stress?

Stress and anxiety are brothers. So, how do we deal with it?

  • Tell yourself to slow down.
  • Do one thing at a time–quit the multi-tasking
  • Take deep breaths
  • Find a quiet place and focus on the NOW
  • Ask for help
  • Tell yourself, “I love you even when you feel bad.”

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How do you Love Your Enemies?

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This was an interesting subject that’s been rolling around in my head lately.

Loving your enemies.

How the heck do you do that?

So, we all know this guy named Jesus right? He told us these words, “Love Your Enemies.”

Jesus, you be crazy! How do I do that?

In the book, the Power of Now, I loved what the author said, “Love your enemies,” said Jesus, which, of course, means, “have no enemies.”

The ego thrives on enemies. It has to be right and someone else has to be wrong. When we love our enemies, we have no enemies. We stop having to justify, validate, and prove that we are the top dog, or we are right, right, right. When we have to be right, we point the finger, shame, blame, judge, and cause a mess in relationships or even with people we don’t know.

The ego has to be right.

The ego needs an opposition.

It needs an enemy.

So, what I believe Jesus was saying was, “Love your enemies.” Or in other words, “Don’t create enemies in your mind. Have no enemies.”

Someone can hate you. I mean be a butt to you, and you can make a choice to have no enemies. To love your enemies. When you love them, the ego is no longer in control. It has no enemy to contend anymore. Only love can shine then.

It doesn’t mean you hang out with that person. Because, in their mind you are still their enemy. Does that make sense? You are no longer operating out of ego, and therefore you are loving your enemy.

No one loves an enemy.

So, what was Jesus saying?

He was saying, “Have no enemies. Love them, so that in your own mind they are no longer an enemy.”

Jesus didn’t skip around with those who hung him on a cross, or say, “Come eat at my table” to the pharisees. He didn’t whisper in their ear, “You’re my best friend.”

Jesus just simply showed us this powerful thing. No one is my enemy. He said, “Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” He saw beyond the shell of humanity. He saw the true spirit beneath the so called “enemy” of His.

He saw no enemies.

Jesus didn’t run off his ego. He could have boasted and said, “Look at me I can change water into wine. I’m the son of God. I’m the  most amazing!” But what would that be?

EGO.

The ego always has to have an enemy to survive. It needs to feel as if it is more ‘righteous’ or ‘holy’ than another. But, if we are leaning toward that, then we are creating, in a sense, an enemy with another.

When we need to prove ourselves to others or make them wrong, we are creating an enemy with that person. When we no longer need to feel right and the other person wrong we are then operating on the level Jesus did. An ego-less life. A mind that doesn’t need to feel justified or righteous. It just is. 

It’s not an easy journey to love your enemies, to get outside ego. Every day ego wants to rear it’s ugly head and shout, Look how wrong they are! Look how right you are! It’s in the rightness and their wrongness that you are creating an enemy with them. When you step outside of ego, and let those who oppose you just be, they are no longer your enemy. You have now stepped into a new realm.

Love your enemies.

Have no enemies

Why do I resent my partner? #divorcerecovery #resentmentinrelationships

You want something really bad. I mean BAD, BAD. So bad in fact, that it’s painful. Your partner or spouse seems to be withholding that thing from you–now what?

This was me.

I married at a very young age (22) and I had tons of high hopes for the future. I pictured myself having 4-5 kids around me, laughing, romance, and all the fairy-tale stuff.

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To make a super long story short, my ex-husband withheld my greatest desire from me.

TO BE A MOM.

From the age of probably 12, I pictured myself being a mom. In fact, that was the only thing I desired.

As years ticked by, and I asked more and more, I realized that this desire wasn’t going to be fulfilled. In fact, I started loathing this desire. The longer it went, the more painful it felt. Until, one day I remember feeling my desire is bad. 

What causes resentment in a relationship?

Have you ever wanted something so bad that it suddenly felt bad to want it?

After 10 years of marriage, I suddenly realized that the relationship I was in was not what I wanted. I used to try to make it squeeze into a box, but if I looked at it square in the face–it was never my truest desire.

I started to resent him for withholding my greatest desire.

If you feel like a desire you have is bad, I want to tell you that it’s not. I’m not condoning divorce, when a spouse withholds something from you, but value yourself. I didn’t value my desire enough to do something about it–I let myself be controlled and pushed aside. I lost valuable years because of it.

The resentment I felt toward him destroyed our relationship.

Have a voice.

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Say to yourself, what I desire is good. What I desire is normal. 

People used to tell me, “What you wanted was normal!”

But, for some reason I still felt bad about my desire, because it caused so much pain and resentment in my relationship. I’ve come to realize now, that it wasn’t me, it was him. Most men on the planet want their wife to have children and be happy. Not to condemn my ex, but his own issues got in the way, and it created a huge gap between us.

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I want to encourage you today that your desires are GOOD. 

If your partner is withholding something from you, first of all, communicate how you feel. Many times resentment builds because we aren’t expressing our feelings in the right way. Start of with, “I feel (emotion) when you withhold this from me.”

Your desires are good.

Remember that.